Let God Handle It

Have someone hurt you in the past? Have you trusted someone whom you thought would be there with you all the step of the way, through whatever situation you were facing in your life, but that person began to resent you, and turned their back on you? Have you invested all you have got in a relationship, but no matter how hard you tried, your spouse became unfaithful, unkind, and uncaring? Have your own family, friends, or business associate deceived you, and abandoned you? Have your own children became unappreciative and uncaring? Have you invested all your labor in a job that you got nothing in return for? Your employer or boss may not have recognized your hard work, and overlooked you for a possible salary advancement or promotion. Have someone intentionally hurt you or someone you love in any form?

These questions are scenarios that you might have had to deal with at some point in your life. However, even though all may not apply to you, some may apply to you, or others that are not mentioned here. Despite this fact, whatever hurt or pain you have endured, or are enduring in your life, because of a person who has wronged you, you have to come to a place where you can forgive that person, so you can find peace in your soul, and be at peace with God. The Scripture states, “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)

Even though you might have had to deal with some form of betrayal in your life, do not let this causes you to become bitter and revengeful. If you are not careful, you will want to unleash your own vengeance and become vindictive. In light of this, you should understand that God advised you to leave all vengeance to Him. The Scripture says, “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” Romans 12:19 (KJV)

I recently heard a story on TV where two girls were unpopular and became target of bullies in school, so both of them decided to become friends. However, one of the girls devised a strategy to become friends with her opponents, and in the process disregarded her unpopular friend. Her friend felt betrayed and hurt, and so decided that she would make her pay for hurting her, and have her feel the way she felt.

Subsequently, she created a fake profile of a boy on My Space and sent a friend’s request to her old friend, who accepted. Her old friend began to confide in this new boyfriend, by telling him things about all her friends, including her former unpopular friend, as well as other stuff that she was facing in her life.

However, after five weeks she got an email from the boy telling her that he was not interested in her anymore, and that he was going to tell all her friends what she had said about them. Consequently, this opened the door for cyber bullying. Every one of her friends now turned against her. Her world had fallen apart, and she felt betrayed and hurt. As a result, she committed suicide by hanging herself.

After her death, everything began to unfold; the boy was fictitious and was created by her old unpopular friend. In addition, this plot had not only involved her old unpopular friend, but her mother, and another relative as well. Although they all did it to get back to her, so she could feel the pain that her betrayed unpopular friend felt; it went way further than that. It had contributed to her death. They got in trouble with the law for doing this, and everyone in town turned against them.

That’s why it’s important, no matter how bad someone has hurt you, that you let God vindicates you, instead of taking revenge into your own hands.

Letting go is not easy, but it’s a healing process for yourself. The Psalmist David was hurt when his own friend had betrayed him. This person had been his church brethren, and he trusted and confided in this person. At the same token, this person did not share David’s sentiment, but deceived him instead.

David’s life was now in jeopardy, as the very person he trusted, was seeking to kill him. If this person was an enemy, then David could be more cautious and protected himself. However, this person whom he trusted, had more personal access to him.

David became fearful for his life, and so, in penning Psalms 55, David expressed his deepest fears, anxiety, and betrayal. He stated, “For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance. We took sweet counsel together, and walked unto the house of God in company.” Psalms 55:12-14 (KJV).

Sometimes the person whom you trusted and thought would have been there for you, had instead turned against. This can indeed be painful, however, you can seek the one person who will vindicate you, and deliver your soul in peace from past hurt and pain.

In light of this, you too have a responsibility; you have to let go off past hurt and pain. Although David had been betrayed and hurt by his close friend, he did not become callous and bitter, neither did he take revenge and matter into his own hands, instead, he allowed God to vindicate him. He said, “As for me, I will call upon God; and the Lord shall save me. Evening, and morning, and at noon, will I pray, and cry aloud: and he shall hear my voice. He hath delivered my soul in peace from the battle that was against me: for there were many with me.” Psalms 55:16-18 (KJV)